Wednesday, November 4, 2009



Just now...midnight Tuesday, my stepdaughter came to let me know she is "ready" to enter her 28-day rehab tomorrow morning early.  And she gave me a big hug.  It was the nicest hug I've received in quite a while--and face it--being an old guy, I get lotsa hugs, mostly from young girls who never knew their Grandfathers.


I don't know why, but this brings me to a topic on which I had not planned--it is just rolling out as I pounce on these bright yellow keys with large  black letters and numbers--I LOVE it!  And here rolls out the topic, Peeps. LOVE!

I have borrowed extensively and freely from a fine blog of a girl named Lighthouse, and I'm hoping she will not think too ill of me for doing so.

Many believe that some others throw around the "Love" word to the point of abusing its implied power, its sometime-erroneously-implied meanings.

There is a difference between love and being in love. I can love my friend, my sister, my cat, my blog… But being IN LOVE with someone has a different meaning.

Love is not "in love".  Love is one or more of the following: to take delight or pleasure in;  to have a strong liking for, or a desire for being in the company of, or an interest in; to be pleased with.

IN Love is an involuntary cognitive and emotional state in which a person feels an intensely romantic desire for another person.

For me, there is that huge difference, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, between the two words and their meanings. 

Examples abound:  Am I "in love" with my dog? No. (Although some may be--grin!)  Am I "in love" with my wife? Yes.  Am I "in love" with my Peeps? No! But I do love them to death, believe me! And during a slightest moment of chance, I would go anywhere to meet them, help them.

The whole act of Creation was and is an expression of God's LOVE for everything and for all.  Is love the Alpha and Omega of everything, even life itself? Mebbe so, Kemosabi!

Why might a discussion on this topic be troublesome to me or anyone? Quoting Lighthouse:  "I think this has a lot to do with people being honest with each other. We are afraid to tell each other how we REALLY feel because we are afraid of how the other person will respond. Will they like me as much as I like them? Will they be hurt if I tell them the truth? Will I hurt OTHERS if I tell them the truth? Will they not talk to me again? Will they gossip about me? What are some more consequences?  In any case, truth is the winner

Being a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous has allowed me to present--at least for my own unraveling of word-meanings--such a topic at this time, in this place.  

I am grateful and indebted to one, who in a phone conversation this very day, showed and taught me the difference between "Love" and "IN Love".

Peace, Peeps!
Stay free from bondage, Peeps!
Stay sober, Peeps!
I  L O V E  Y O U, Peeps--grin!


Nessa said...

A lovely topic. Fear causes so many problems.

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Angeles said...

I LOVE you!!

Dulce said...

I sigh Peep

I ♥ you too.

Syd said...

That feeling of being in love is such a strong feeling. It is better than anything experienced. But it can be a blessing and a curse.

Akannie said...

I dunno...it scares me when you use the word LOVE and BONDAGE in the same post.


Gabriella Moonlight said...

Steve...wow, I understand this deeply there are distinct differences with the manner and types of love and it is always our fears taht keep us fromt eh sunlight of the spirit which to me is LOVE!!! I love you!!!

enchantedoak said...

Hey, great news about your stepdaughter! If she stays, she'll hear lots of good AA and lots of seeds will be planted. "Loved" your blog today!
Chris A

wolfie185 said...

Great post Steve, thanks for letting me reflect a little deeper about a feeling I have a hard time understanding, too many years living in fear and not showing or receiving love, it has only been in the last year that I have become comfortable with it.

Peace Love and Light of the Spirit

linda said...

lovely to read about your step-daughter and perhaps you played a very large part in that as well! how very lovely to hear that...

blessings upon you, this was a beautiful post ♥

DreamDancer said...

True love is like a psychic experience...everyone tells ghost stories, but few have ever seen a ghost. Those whom experience being "in love", and not just a fleeting romance are blessed, or sometimes, cursed. There are many people who wish to be in love, but all too often, fear rules out. Thanks for the post, Steve... gave me something to ponder upon.

Shadow said...

a subtle different, but a difference indeed. and i love all my blogger peeps, you too! and lots of well wishes to your step-daughter!!!

Just Be Real said...

Stevie, great topic. We all have issues with fear, so this is good to post. Thank you dear one. Blessings and hugs.

Scott said...

Love you man! I'll pray for your step daughter!

Anonymous said...

I LOVE YOU my friend for always believing in me

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

LOL Akannie! Love and bondage in the same post...

Hee hee

I love you!!

Fireblossom said...

Thanks for all the recent comments at my blog, Steve. :-)

I love all sorts of things, from toll house cookies to 80s music.

As for being IN love, the older I get the less I know about it.

Anonymous said...

There seems to be allot of love going around this morning and what a blessing. God sent us many ways to love, without going into to much details and lengthy comment, I express my love to friends by saying I love you, hugging, doing little things. To strangers, a smile is affection, love, to our peeps on here, typing in your comment boxes is love.
So to you dearest steve and friends, I am sending smiles and hugs your way, with love

Anonymous said...

your well loved you have something at my blog my friend

Benton Butler said...

Your step daughter entering into a recover program is great news. I'm happy to hear that. And doing so at such a young age is really a great step in the right direction.

Good for you and your family.

Calli said...

I'd give you a heart if Dulce would teach me how to make one...*grin* ...

Such a lovely love-filled post. You are loved dear Steve.

Calli xo

mile191 said...

This is well put, beautiful. My hope and best to you all. I was first struck by the fact that you are a step-dad....I ...well, you know, and then to think...there are good ones out there. I am happy for you, both, and thanks for helping me see some light in the darkness..

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