I was a neurotic for many years. I was anxious, depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change.
I resented them, and I agreed with them. I wanted to change, but simply could not, no matter how hard I tried.
What hurt the most was that--like the others--my best friend kept insisting that I change. So I felt powerless and trapped.
Then one day my best friend said to me, "Don't change. I love you just as you are."
The words were music to my ears: "Don't change. Don't change. Don't change. I love you as you are.
I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly...I changed!
Now I realize that I could not really change until I found someone who would love me whether I changed or not.
(Is this how You love me, God?)
Story: "Don't Change" from SONG OF THE BIRD by Anthony De Mello p 67