DRINKING ALCOHOL TAUGHT ME HOW TO FLY
THEN IT TOOK AWAY THE SKY

Saturday, October 25, 2008

ONE STEP AT A TIME


STEP ONE


About one week ago, Hank tagged me to blog about Step One. I procrastinated for a few days--too busy, ya know--until I forgot completely. Reading Mary Louisey's October 24 blog (scroll down to find it) on the Second Step, reminded me to get on the stick:


When I became a member of Alcoholics Anonymous, I admitted that I was powerless over alcohol and that my life had become unmanageable. I realize the first step includes the word "We" which meant to me I needed you. How TRUE! Because I had tried SO many times to stay stopped. Note that hundreds (thousands?) of times I had stopped drinking, when mostly I went into my hour-or-two of oblivion.

I stopped drinking many times every day, every time I screwed the cap on the vodka bottle or put the cork back on the wine bottle. But I could not STAY stopped, could not STAY sober. I promised myself--countless times--that "this is the last one...ever". Oh, my puzzled brain, when next morning I'd awake looking straight up at birds sitting on power lines, looking down at me. I experienced frequently that remorse known only to addictive people (or great sinners?), when occasionally remembering where I had been, what I had said and done, and to whom.

In March 1974, I had been seeing a counselor, who had me cut way back on my alcohol consumption, way back to 1 little pint of vodka per day. (I remember buying a case of pints on sale.)

On Monday, March 18, he said to me, "Today is the day of your last drink. Tomorrow night you will attend your first Meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous. I have arranged for someone to meet you there. Good luck."


At my first AA meeting, I heard the following words, but did not remember them. "Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:


1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable."

And since my life was at that time in complete, utter CHAOS, I sensed that I was in the right place. And, here I am--October 2008--still free of alcohol, and free of SO much more! Often have I pondered why some of us--many of us--do not make it. The difficulty seems to arise in those of us who never really admitted that we were powerless over alcohol. We had a mental reservation. We kept debating with ourselves and finally reached the wrong answer.

In Step One, right next to 'powerlessness', (or under?), 'surrender' comes to mind as SUCH an important word/concept for me. I DO recall thinking this: "Please, AA people, tell me what to do. I am helpless and hopeless. I cannot do this. I want to drink SO badly, it's been 20 hours now."

I had given up. I had surrendered. I had lost all mental willfulness, all physical energy, and could fight no more.

Even though I've not drank alcohol for many years, I know, in my heart of hearts, a drink is only a slip of the mind away--for me. I must constantly think about how to give this (sobriety) away, in order to keep it. And, still, here I am...and this I remember always, a quote from I don't know where:

"The dead drug leaves a ghost behind. At certain hours it haunts the house."


soberoni

12 comments:

indistinct said...

soberoni, thanks for sharing.

In you, I see our program at work. I loved it when you said "and free of so much more." Our "daily reprieve" ends up a full and rich gift when we work our program. Your an example of that. Thank you.

PRAYER GIRL said...

Ah - total and complete defeat. How wonderful!

To the normal (non-alcoholic) drinker that statement would make no sense, would seem insane.

To us they are beautiful words - in that complete surrender lies a promise of the best things life has to offer.

Zanejabbers said...

Good stuff. Enjoy you Gratitude Cruise.

Syd said...

Thanks Steve. I had to surrender too but it was an emotional surrender. I gave up. That's when I realized that I needed to find a way to live.

Scott said...

good stuff my friend, glad ya made it in and stayed!

TraceyBaby said...

This brings tears to my eyes, Steve. It is all so true and I know that from the food side of things.

Since my weight loss really slowed down the last few months, I questioned things some. Should I be doing more? Am I relying too much on God here. Then a little hint of the compulsion to overeat would try to creep in. I kept the faith, kept putting it in God's hands, and the weight is slowly but surely still dropping off. That compulsion is almost completely gone, very close. Even if I hadn't lost a pound, this was something I needed to do to rid my self of that compulsion to overeat. It was ruining my life.

Thank God for AA.

Faith said...

I will miss you guys while you are on vacation! Have fuuuuun!

Mary LA said...

Hope you and Prayergirl enjoy the cruise, I will miss you.

Hugs

Mary

Kathy Lynne said...

I remember very well the attempts I made to stop drinking. Every day was the day but by the end of the day, oh well, WTF. When Step One happend for me, on June 11 of 2007, it was total. Thank you God.

Banana Girl said...

Sorry to be so late in getting to you. Nutsy busy. What a great post. I am starting over on the steps and this was exactly what I needed to read. (hugs) J.

Cat said...

As I rea dthis I kept thinking of my husband - one year sober now - but he said something similar things to me.

Cat

Hope your having a great trip!

pat said...

Thanks for sharing from the heart.