Tuesday, December 22, 2009




Years ago, a guy in AA handed me a card, and he said "Here is your Gratitude List!"

There was nothing on either side of the card, so I told him that.

He said, "Good!  All you have to do is fill in all that blank space!"

So much gratitude we talk about during this triumviral holiday season. Only this morning the chair person announced: "Today's topic--and I can hear groaning already--is on Gratitude." Those were his exact words.

My first thought was "You said 'Groaning'? WTF? After 'not drinking', gratitude is what keeps me ALIVE!!"  

If I am not grateful, Who do I think got me sober, and keeps me sober? Me? You? AA? Answer: None of the above. It is GOD Who does all this for me-- through you Peeps and practicing the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.  That's how it's done, where it is AT, folks. For ME--nowhere else. It is the only thing that worked--and continually works.

So, for everything I might declare Gratitude for, SOBRIETY is Numero Uno, because without it, I have nothing. I would have been  either in JAIL,a Mental Institution, or under the ground...and maybe for those reasons is whence comes my JOY at being alive.

Happiness is for me Acceptance of almost everything, Willingness to change most everything, and Gratitude to my God, for all he has given me.  This gratitude is not a simple "feeling of being grateful". It is more like "feeling of DOING grateful". Gratitude is an action word. I must show others what I used to be like, what happened to me, and what I am like now. Perfection is the goal. Great amounts of IMPERFECTION is the reality. And so I can only strive to get better, BE better, and serve better my fellows, you Peeps, and whoever I may be fortunate enough today to MEET.

Dammmm, I sure got on the soapbox! But I'm NOT sorry! See? It's working already!

I wish you all the Peace for which the Christmas celebration implies. I wish you my LOVE and a Merry (means HAPPY!) Christmas week...and after. Thank you--all my Peeps--SO much for being here. Blessings.


Kim A. said...

Gratitude is what puts me where I need to be to hear what I need to hear in order to do what I am meant to do with the guidance of someone bigger than me.

I agree completely and am giving you props!


Tall Kay said...

Thanks Steve for this timely reminder. I am missing my grandkids so much and almost forgot about just how grateful I am to be sober.

Anonymous said...

I'm grateful for my friends,
I hope I didn't upset you with my post on my blog. you and pg are my friends I sometimes but my foot in my mouth,I'm sorry

Anonymous said...

The first time I tried to make a list of what I was grateful for, it was a revelation to me that I had such good fortune. So I know what you mean, and it's not so much material things.

All the best of the holidays to you and your family, Steve!


garden-variety drunk said...

thanks for the post on gratitude. although i groan when that's the topic at meetings, they are almost great at turning my soar alcoholic mood around : )

and what a gorgeous tree!!

Dulce said...

You are just so " better" already... how can that go any further?

You are so very sweet, how can you be so so?

Merry Xmas to you too Peep Steveroni
Peace and blessings and mil besos

From me to you. ;)

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Di-Git said...

Thanks Steve for your posts

enchantedoak said...

I love Kim's remark above. Gratitude goes hand in hand with sobriety. How can I not be grateful to be blessed with sobriety when so many other alcoholics are dying around me? I was taught to do gratitude lists anytime I get on the pity pot. Now I just list things in my prayers of thanksgiving every morning, and it puts me in the space I need to be in so that I can be of maximum service to God and my fellows. I love your tree, and your post! Go soapbox, go!

Nevine said...

Steve, I send you my warmest and most sincere wishes this holiday season. And may you always be so happy and blessed.


Cindy said...

I'm so grateful for your post on Gratitude! Merry Christmas!

Carol said...

i think that it is the best holiday season in my life. I thought of you today, reading parts of a book on aging by Andrew Weil who listed violins as one of the things that improves with age. Others are cheese and antiques, all good things, he didn't mention 76 year old bloggers but I thought that I might.

Shadow said...

and happy sure is something you are! merry christmas, steve!

Fireblossom said...

Steve my friend, let me put this in terms I know you will understand. For some reason, your post made music start in my head; specifically the largo from the "winter" section of Vivaldi's Four seasons. It sounds like gratitude to me. You too?

Syd said...

In the sermon at the funeral of my former director, the minister said that a life filled with gratitude was how the man lived his life. What a great concept to be grateful for the people and the wonder of all that surrounds us.

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

YAY gratitude!~

Gabriella Moonlight said...

I love gratitude meetings and hear the same groans, but it's gratitude that keeps me sane and sober. I LOVE this post and Love you deeply Steve!! Your posts through the year have been amazing and insightful and I hope for you the best Christmas filled with love,joy, and peace!!!


Manon Doyle said...

I love gratitude.... I'm grateful everyday! Love your post!!
I hope your holiday season is merry Steve!!

Just Be Real said...

Stevie you are a doll! Thank you for the reminder. Blessings and hugs to you and yours during this special time of year.